Sharing Garden
Sharing Garden
In the Sharing Garden, there gathered people from all around the world. When they felt that they were suffering from the emotional flu some time in their lives, they sought help, complied with proper treatment, changed their thinking style, and exercised physically; they eventually recovered. These people were sitting around the tree and sharing their pathways to the recovery of the flu. Depressed Little Prince joined the discussion, learned the experiences, and gained insights.
Troubled Man
Troubled Man was trapped amidst problems every day. Different kinds of unsolvable problems pound upon his mind:
“What should I do?”
“How can I deal with it?”
“Is there any solution?”
“Could this problem be solved?”
“When will the trouble end?”
Problem Solving
Undesirable Ways of Problem-solving| Repetition | Endless hesitations or worthless efforts when facing problems until time runs out, and these problems in the end are dealt with in haste by substandard means. |
| Decision by Attrition | Making a decision by wearing down people’s defence on their own opinions. Fatigued and fed-up, you are no longer able to think clearly. |
| Wrong Compromises | Upon disputes, it is best to find a middle ground which settles all parties while conceding some part of their original views or goals. However, unwise compromises in practice may produce no-win solutions. |
| Hidden Agenda | A “hidden agenda” refers to the situation where one or more of the people at a meeting have an issue or feeling which they see as relevant to the group’s discussions, but which they do not state openly. Its influence may puzzle or frustrate the rest of the group |
Six Steps to Problem-solving| Step 1 | Define the problem |
| Step 2 | Brainstorm possible solutions |
| Step 3 | Evaluate the possible solutions |
| Step 4 | Choose the best solution |
| Step 5 | Make plans to implement the solution |
| Step 6 | Implement the plans |
Time Management
Time management| 1. | List your tasks and activities |
| 2. | Set a timetable |
| 3. | Prioritize your tasks and activities |
| 4. | Review your timetable |
Time-Management Strategies| Strategy 1 | Expect the unexpected |
| Strategy 2 | Keep records of important things |
| Strategy 3 | Start on new tasks ASAP |
| Strategy 4 | Work out a reminder system |
| Strategy 5 | Make a daily cross-out list |
| Strategy 6 | Reward yourself for tackling the unrewarding tasks |
References:
Montgomery, B. & Evans, L. (1993). (2nd ed.). You and stress. Melbourne: Viking O’Neil.
Hawton, K. & Kirk, J. (1989). Problem-solving. In K. Hawton, P. Salkovskis, J. Kirk & D. M. Clark. (ed.), Cognitive behaviour therapy for psychiatric problems: A practicalg guide, (pp. 406-426). Oxford: Oxford University Press.