{"id":3072,"date":"2022-08-25T13:23:24","date_gmt":"2022-08-25T05:23:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/?page_id=3072"},"modified":"2022-08-27T19:42:58","modified_gmt":"2022-08-27T11:42:58","slug":"joe-sad","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/joe-sad\/","title":{"rendered":"Joe Sad"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"3072\" class=\"elementor elementor-3072 elementor-3071\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-55c32bd elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"55c32bd\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[],&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-background-overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-152dd11\" data-id=\"152dd11\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b53df1e elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b53df1e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.13.3 - 28-05-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>Sharing Garden<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1b7bfc6 raven-nav-menu-align-center raven-tablet-nav-menu-align-center raven-mobile-mobile-nav-menu-align-center raven-nav-menu-stretch raven-mobile-nav-menu-align-left elementor-widget elementor-widget-raven-nav-menu\" data-id=\"1b7bfc6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;full_width&quot;:&quot;stretch&quot;,&quot;mobile_layout&quot;:&quot;dropdown&quot;,&quot;submenu_space_between&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;submenu_opening_position&quot;:&quot;bottom&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"raven-nav-menu.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<nav class=\"raven-nav-menu-main raven-nav-menu-horizontal raven-nav-menu-tablet- raven-nav-menu-mobile- raven-nav-icons-hidden-tablet raven-nav-icons-hidden-mobile\">\n\t\t\t<ul id=\"menu-1b7bfc6\" class=\"raven-nav-menu\"><li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3314\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/sharing-garden\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Despaired Student<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3313\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/fiery-colleague\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Fiery Colleague<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3312\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/love-maniac\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Love Maniac<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3311\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/joe-sad\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Joe Sad<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3310\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/troubled-man\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Troubled Man<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3309\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/mr-potato-and-miss-peanut\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Mr. Potato and Miss Peanut<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3308\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/lonely-holiday\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Lonely Holiday<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t<\/nav>\n\n\t\t<div class=\"raven-nav-menu-toggle\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"raven-nav-menu-toggle-button \">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"fa fa-bars\"><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<nav class=\"raven-nav-icons-hidden-tablet raven-nav-icons-hidden-mobile raven-nav-menu-mobile raven-nav-menu-dropdown\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"raven-container\">\n\t\t\t\t<ul id=\"menu-mobile-1b7bfc6\" class=\"raven-nav-menu\"><li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3314\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/sharing-garden\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Despaired Student<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3313\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/fiery-colleague\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Fiery Colleague<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3312\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/love-maniac\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Love Maniac<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3311\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/joe-sad\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Joe Sad<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3310\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/troubled-man\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Troubled Man<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3309\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/mr-potato-and-miss-peanut\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Mr. Potato and Miss Peanut<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"menu-item menu-item-type-post_type menu-item-object-page menu-item-3308\"><a href=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/en\/lonely-holiday\/\" class=\"raven-menu-item raven-link-item \">Lonely Holiday<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/nav>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2179f37 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2179f37\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-background-overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c85bff4\" data-id=\"c85bff4\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-03e13dc elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"03e13dc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Sharing Garden<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-703778e elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"703778e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the Sharing Garden, there gathered people from all around the world. When they felt that they were suffering from the emotional flu some time in their lives, they sought help, complied with proper treatment, changed their thinking style, and exercised physically; they eventually recovered. These people were sitting around the tree and sharing their pathways to the recovery of the flu. Depressed Little Prince joined the discussion, learned the experiences, and gained insights.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c33cca5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c33cca5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/cp_2_title_1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Joe Sad<img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-left: 5px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/cp_2_title_1b.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-1d0b3a2 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1d0b3a2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-7f6e194\" data-id=\"7f6e194\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fe44cd3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"fe44cd3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.13.3 - 28-05-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img width=\"747\" height=\"1628\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/share-4-min.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-2968\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/share-4-min.png 747w, https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/share-4-min-138x300.png 138w, https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/share-4-min-470x1024.png 470w, https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/share-4-min-705x1536.png 705w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 747px) 100vw, 747px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-9116e02\" data-id=\"9116e02\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9a8c34d elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9a8c34d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"red-font\">Joe Sad had no friends. He had no clue why this would be so. People around him would describe him as<\/p>\n<p id=\"\">&#8220;He thinks he&#8217;s the greatest.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p id=\"\">&#8220;I feel uncomfortable to talk with him.<\/p>\n<p id=\"\">&#8220;He can only see himself.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p id=\"\">When I need someone to talk with. I&#8217;d never choose him.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p id=\"\">&#8220;He seems to be unsociable. 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and &#8220;bully.&#8221; Sometimes even apparently positive labelling like &#8220;dedicated&#8221; and &#8220;hard working&#8221; may prevent you from appreciating others as as a person.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Diagnosing<\/td>\n<td>It means trying to assess someone&#8217;s personality and analyze for him\/her, according to your personal judgement, the reasons behind this person&#8217;s speech and\/or action. Many people will understandably resent this amateur psychological snooping.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Praising<\/td>\n<td>Praises become an obstacle when they are perceived as manipulative or patronizing, even if you were sincere when you said so.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"red-font mb-1\"><img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/title_icon.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Obstacle 2: Sending solutions<\/div>\n<div class=\"rg-container\">\n<table class=\"rg-table\">\n<tbody class=\"zebra\">\n<tr>\n<td width=\"100\">Ordering<\/td>\n<td>Essentially declaring that others are inferior to you.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Threatening<\/td>\n<td>Physical, emotional, and material threat may give you an illusion of control over others; nonetheless, this is not a result of respect but fear and eventually distrust of others.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Moralizing<\/td>\n<td>Preaching about the &#8220;should?and &#8220;shouldn&#8217;t?earns yourself no respect but disdains as you are essentially denying others?right to decide for themselves.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Questioning<\/td>\n<td>Excessive questioning can turn out to be an interrogation, especially when the questions are engineered towards answers you expected, rather than what the other person would like to discuss.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Closed-end questions<\/td>\n<td>Again, conversations that lead nowhere but to conclusions you wanted to reach; others opinion are rendered irrelevant.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Admonishing<\/td>\n<td>Admonishments often imply denial of others?opinions while imposing yours upon them. More likely than not, your insistence would be considered groundless as even the simplest argument concerns factors for which your limited knowledge and experiences are barely sufficient and appropriate.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"red-font mb-1\"><img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/title_icon.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Obstacle 3: Dodging the other&#8217;s concerns<\/div>\n<div class=\"rg-container\">\n<table class=\"rg-table\">\n<tbody class=\"zebra\">\n<tr>\n<td width=\"100\">Digressing<\/td>\n<td>Nitpicking insignificant points from others?argument from which you then wander off out of your own interest.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Arguing in the name of logic<\/td>\n<td>Focusing on the so-called &#8220;facts&#8221; while ignoring the others?feelings. In problematic situations, feelings are usually more important.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Reassuring<\/td>\n<td>Boiling down to denying the others?feelings in the end, because you do not truly understand why.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"red-font mb-1\"><img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/title_icon.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Obstacle 4: &#8220;I&#8217;ve seen that!&#8221;<\/div>\nIt should already be obvious to you that it is not uncommon to find hundreds of others you know who exhibit the problems stated above. Let&#8217;s not forget that you could well be one of them. This is the ultimate obstacle your must overcome; reflect on your behaviours and re-evaluate how you treat others.\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c05978 elementor-widget-divider--separator-type-pattern elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"5c05978\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\" style=\"--divider-pattern-url: url(&quot;data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns=&#039;http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg&#039; preserveAspectRatio=&#039;none&#039; overflow=&#039;visible&#039; height=&#039;100%&#039; viewBox=&#039;0 0 24 24&#039; fill=&#039;none&#039; stroke=&#039;black&#039; stroke-width=&#039;3&#039; stroke-linecap=&#039;square&#039; stroke-miterlimit=&#039;10&#039;%3E%3Cpath d=&#039;M0,21c3.3,0,8.3-0.9,15.7-7.1c6.6-5.4,4.4-9.3,2.4-10.3c-3.4-1.8-7.7,1.3-7.3,8.8C11.2,20,17.1,21,24,21&#039;\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E&quot;);\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d90cadd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d90cadd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"mb-1 red-font\" style=\"font-size: 20px;\">Three Basic Communication Skills<\/p>\n\n<div class=\"red-font mb-1\"><img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/title_icon.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Skill 1: Leveling<\/div>\n<p class=\"mb-1\">Tell the other person clearly and non-defensively how you feel, or how you think about a particular issue, rather than trying to hide your feelings or misrepresent him\/her.<\/p>\n<div class=\"red-font mb-1\"><img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/title_icon.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Skill 2: Listening<\/div>\n<p class=\"mb-1\">By listening we mean actively trying to listen to what the other person really says, rather than assuming you know what he\/she is going to say, or listening to yourself, or interrupting. Obviously, if you don&#8217;t hear what the other person actually says, you do not have much chance of communicating well. As if you are a tape recorder, take the conversation in word by word and chew on each word one by one.<\/p>\n<div class=\"red-font mb-1\"><img class=\"wp-image-902\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/depression.hku.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/title_icon.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"30\">Skill 3: Validating<\/div>\n<p class=\"mb-1\">Validating means to accept as truth what the other person tells you about his\/her feelings, rather than denying his\/her feelings, or insisting that he\/she ought to feel or think the way you would. Validating is not giving in, nor does it mean, &#8220;I understand why you feel the way,&#8221; nor &#8220;Yes, I would do the same.&#8221; The minimum and sufficient validation is just to accept how the other person feels.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2f4518b elementor-widget-divider--separator-type-pattern elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"2f4518b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\" style=\"--divider-pattern-url: url(&quot;data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns=&#039;http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg&#039; preserveAspectRatio=&#039;none&#039; overflow=&#039;visible&#039; height=&#039;100%&#039; viewBox=&#039;0 0 24 24&#039; fill=&#039;none&#039; stroke=&#039;black&#039; stroke-width=&#039;3&#039; stroke-linecap=&#039;square&#039; stroke-miterlimit=&#039;10&#039;%3E%3Cpath d=&#039;M0,21c3.3,0,8.3-0.9,15.7-7.1c6.6-5.4,4.4-9.3,2.4-10.3c-3.4-1.8-7.7,1.3-7.3,8.8C11.2,20,17.1,21,24,21&#039;\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E&quot;);\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bd4d516 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bd4d516\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"mb-1 red-font\" style=\"font-size: 20px;\">Everybody likes You<\/p>\n\n<ul><li class=\"mb-1\">Wining or losing isn&#8217;t that important; friendship always goes first.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">Be generous to give compliments to others and be grateful to receive compliments from others.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">Actively group up with others; don&#8217;t just wait to be asked to join.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">Try to build up a dialogue. When the others get what they want, they would enjoy your company.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">At times of conflict, don&#8217;t create enemies.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">You may give suggestions and persuade others, but don&#8217;t be the boss.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">When making group decisions, make sure everyone passes the final consensus.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">Respect others?opinions. Everyone has the right to say what he\/she wants to say without being put-down.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">Offer to share when you feel that the others would enjoy, but don&#8217;t show off.<\/li>\n\n<li class=\"mb-1\">Neither reject nor neglect anybody. Instead, invite him\/her to join in.<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-206957f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"206957f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span class=\"reference2\">References:<\/span><\/p><p><span class=\"reference\">McGrath, H., &amp; Francey, S. (1999). <i>Friendly kids friendly classrooms.<\/i> Sydney: Longman Pearson.<\/span><\/p><p><span class=\"reference\">Montgomery, B. &amp; Evans, L. (1993). 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